Always wondering what it’s like in the first trimester of pregnancy? Want to know what to say when your friend says she is pregnant? Read on for details!
Photos taken last weekend
I know I’ve always been curious about other women’s experiences with pregnancy so I’ll be sharing some of mine on the blog in the coming months. I’ll limit the specific updates to every few weeks or so, but I may share some stories and advice in other posts along the way.
How far along: 15 weeks
Total weight gain: 6 pounds
Maternity clothes: I started wearing maternity pants around ten weeks (only my leggings really fit me at that point). Plus I would get so bloated during the day that even if my old pants fit me in the morning I would be so uncomfortable by the afternoon. My yoga pants and a few loose tops still fit.
Stretch marks: Ah, not yet.
Sleep: Much better in the last couple of weeks. For most of the first trimester I was up frequently from stomach discomfort, being hot, and having to pee (four times a night or more!). I was passing out by 8pm (9pm after the time change) and then past midnight couldn’t sleep through the night. I also napped occasionally.
A few things have helped over the last few weeks: drinking less water at night (plus there is probably less pressure on my bladder now), this pillow, and aggressive air conditioning. Also, my stomach isn’t as bad as it was.
Best moment of this week: I’d say the best moment of the last couple of weeks was our 13-week ultrasound. Seeing the baby jump around and then hearing the heartbeat were pretty incredible moments. Also, sharing the news with our friends and family has been fun.
Miss anything: I already have a running list of things to consume after I have the baby… a bagel with lox, cocktail(s), a really good deli sandwich, diet coke…
Movement: Nothing yet!
Food cravings: I had some cravings in the first few weeks, things like nachos, guacamole, ice cream, fruit and all carbs. Overall, though, I’m just hungry ALL the time.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Luckily no. I may have felt like a zombie for the first trimester, but I very rarely felt sick. And the few times that I did, I just ate extra carbs and that usually helped.
Have you started to show yet: Yes! Although I go back and forth between looking a little pregnant or very fat.
Gender: Don’t know yet but we will definitely find out.
Labor signs: Nope.
Belly button in or out: All in.
Wedding rings on or off: On.
Happy or moody most of the time: Pretty happy but I definitely cry more easily than I ever did before. It is worse when I’m hungry.
Looking forward to: I can’t wait to find out the sex!
Fun Facts: I’ve never felt like I was eating so much yet gaining weight so slowly. Sometimes I feel like I can’t get any work done because I have to stop and eat so often.
And in case you were wondering how to act around someone you know who is newly pregnant.
What you SHOULD say when you find out someone is pregnant:
- That’s amazing, you look wonderful
- You are glowing
- I’m so happy for you
- That is great news
- How far along are you?
- When are you due?
- How are you feeling?
- This is such a wonderful time for you and your family
- I can’t wait to meet the baby
- Let me know if you have any questions about pregnancy or babies
- My friend is pregnant, let me introduce you
What NOT to say when you find out someone is pregnant:
- I knew it! I thought you looked different (This can be okay if you say it delicately. Some women can be really self-conscious of their growing selves)
- No wonder you are eating like a pig
- I’ve been pregnant before, here is all that you ever have to know because I am an expert
- Well, there goes your social life
- Guess you can’t drink, bummer
- Most pregnant women I know went crazy after they had a baby (yes, someone said something like this to me)
- Are you sure you’re not having twins?
- It’s about time
- What, you had a hard time? Here are all the people I know that got pregnant in 0.2 seconds
- Good thing because that clock is ticking
- My friends who have kids are miserable
- Don’t do/eat [insert list of ten million things here]
- Make sure you [insert list of ten million things here]
And on touching the belly:
I actually did not think I’d have to worry about this so early on, but shockingly people love to touch a pregnant belly, even when it’s small. Maybe I’ll feel differently in a few months when I’m much bigger, but right now it still feels like my stomach. Half of the time I’m bloated and uncomfortable and honestly, after years of being self-conscious about how big (I thought) my stomach was, I just really don’t want anyone to touch it. Sometimes people ask, and I guess that is okay, but I always feel like I’m being rude or I’ll hurt their feelings by saying no. Any advice on this?
Any other tips on what or what not to say?
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